Don't Go Chasing

I bet you thought I was going to say 'Waterfalls'... right?

Alright.
Pep talk time.
Let's cut to the chase.

From here on out.
No More Doubting Yourself.
No more second guessing.
No more being afraid to be exactly who you are, or who you want to be.

It is time to stop comparing yourself to others. It’s not healthy.
I've spent way too much time and money with counsellors and psychologists to realise this, so believe me when I say the only place that shit takes you is down the big ol' lonesome road to low (if not non-existant) self-esteem.

No more hurting because you can’t make someone love you (because you can't. Did Bonnie Raitt teach you nothing?).
No more trying desperately hard to win over someone’s affections.
No more frantically running after those who are engaged in others.

No more chasing.
At all.
None.

Love and happiness should never be chased.
You will never ever catch them.
Not ever.
Trust me. My five year old self wound up in hospital with an asthma attack trying to chase my first love in a heated game of Kiss Catch... long story short, I couldn't catch him, Jessica did and I lost my breath (I literally thought I was dying from jealousy and heartbreak. How could she!?).

True love is like a moth. It's attracted to the light (and also freaks me the fuck out sends me into a frenzy)
All you need to do is glow. You do you, boo.
It will come to you.

You just need to open your bloody eyes enough to really see that anything is possible and that you are not all the shitty things you think you are.
You are limitless.

Fairy-tales and happy-ever-afters can exist, but here is the kicker—you have to create these things for yourself.
Nobody else is going to do it for you.
Not your mum, your dad, your best friend, or your soul mate or anyone else out there knows how to build the life you dream of.
Only you can do that.
And you are entirely capable.

Also, let me let you in on a little secret. No one around you has it all figured out. No one. I’ve written this, but believe me when I say I’ve written it as much for myself as anyone else. And if I read it a hundred times over, parts of it still won’t fully sink in. I will still doubt myself.

Why?
Well, think about it
We’ve spent years being conditioned into believing that we cannot be the fullest versions of ourselves. We are afraid to stand in our own spotlight and shine, as every time we try, someone is hiding in the wings ready to knock us straight back down.

The reality is, there will always be those who are watching from the cheap seats, just waiting, praying for when we fall. Allow them the role of spectator if that's what gives them their kicks, but make sure you shock them when you show how fast you are willing to rebound again and again.

Fuck. Even if you stumble - which you will - you’ve got to at least give it one hell of a try.

You are a work of art, and all artwork is a process.
All masterpieces take time and the most important thing is progression—not perfection.
(Holy shit I'm metaphorical in the face of heartbreak)
You know what they say: Rome wasn't built in a day.

We have to start to acknowledge, accept and embrace the beauty in ourselves; it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks—we are the only ones that need to see our worth.

Just because you are a little different from others doesn’t mean you are weird, strange, crazy or odd. You are not a square peg, or a round one for that matter. Your shape will change every single day.

Stop searching for approval. It is time to stop asking or hoping to be liked. It’s time to stop looking for love in the wrong places. You are never going to find the truth in things when you are seeking. They will always elude you. You will only see the illusion of what you hope to find.

We are never going to gain the approval of everyone. It is impossible to be accepted and liked by everyone.
And certainly don't forget that there are always going to be those who judge, find pleasure in putting you down, and just enjoy being assholes in general.
Negativity stems from fear and jealousy.
People are afraid of what they do not understand.

When you shine, you hurts their eyes. It bewilders them.
Your light kisses the edges of their shadow and highlights parts of them that they are afraid to look at. It is easier for some people to tear others down rather than build themselves up.

Not everyone will want to see you soar.
And you kniw what?
That’s okay.
When you are flying high you won’t give a flying fuck what others think.
You'll see that those flying by your side are the ones who will pause to be the wind blowing beneath your wings (can I get an 'amen' for Bette Midler?!) if you weaken.
They are the ones who will help you climb higher, not be the cause of your fall.
They are the real MVP. 
Keep those ones close

When someone is happy with themselves they will never feel the need to pull another person down.

Don’t be "that guy"  and allow yourself to be drawn in by them and pulled under; open your heart, do not judge and above all, show them love. Always remember, hurt people hurt people.

You’ll make mistakes, plenty of them. You always will. Here’s the thing. It’s not the mistakes that are made that matter in the end—what really counts is how we rectify them.

We can’t, as much as we would love to, take an eraser to the past. However - we can turn each negative into a positive. There’s more to be learned from mistakes than anything else life shows us.

So, promise me: Let go of perfection. It doesn’t exist. Believe in magic. It exists.

And I one last promise to ask before I get off my soapbox.

Over and above anything else... If there is the only thing you believe in - Believe in yourself.

It’s not always easy, but with practice, progression and patience, absolutely anything is possible.

Ovary and out,

S

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